I was out for a run/walk with the Contessa earlier in the week and bumped into a friend of ours who was out walking her dog. During our short conversation she said it was nice to see us out running again, after all we have had a three-year absence, she remarked, unsolicited I should point out, that I looked like I had lost some weight. You have no idea how sweet that sounded to me. The benefits from VLR Boot camp were starting to finally show and this positive reinforcement was all that I needed to get me through my workout. My attitude is much better and I’m starting to look forward to the workouts, things are starting to turn. Continue reading “VLR Bootcamp Breakthrough”
It’s starting to happen. Many boomers are waking up and are unwilling to follow the traditional retirement status quo. They are unwilling to blindly follow and do what everyone else before them has done. They refuse to allow themselves to be defined by someone else’s expectations of what they should do or not do at a certain age. They feel an urge to finally break free and express who they really are. They want to work at something that gives meaning and purpose to their lives. All I can say is it’s about time! Continue reading “Best Way To End A Nightmare Is To Wake Up”
I am giving Mike a blog break, as he keeps telling me he is busier now than when he was working for the Corp., but he loves what he is doing! Good Morning another long weekend ends here in Canada and today begins our family’s first day in over 14 years without our dear family dog Sasha. More on that later. Continue reading “Bad Things Are Going to Happen, So Bring On The Joy”
It’s Never Too Late
Many people have heard the story about Grandma Moses who started painting when she was seventy-five years old and still managed to have a twenty-six-year career. Stories like hers seem so distant, so outside the realm of possibility, that it is hard to relate to. That is why I love the following story which was provided to me by our publicist Debby, below is her personal account of how her husband followed his passion and created a dream Victory Lap. A story like this is close to home so it takes on a whole new meaning. Enjoy! Continue reading “Victory Lap Lifestyle Profile #3”
“It’s my life
It’s now or never
I ain’t gonna live forever
I just want to live while I’m alive”
-It’s My Life by Bon Jovi (fellow boomer)
I’m thinking about using the above song as our Victory Lap Retirement (VLR) rallying cry, it’s simple, gets the point across and who doesn’t like Bon Jovi? Please note the absence of the word “retirement” in the lyrics. The song reminds us that now, not tomorrow, is the time to take back control of our life and start living the way that we always wanted to but going through “The Big Dip” never had the time or chance. Continue reading “Victory Lap Retirement: Live Your Best Life Now!”
This question comes up at many presentations I make on Victory Lap Retirement. A strong social network is key to our happiness and longevity. Friendships enrich our lives we should always look to build our social network and build relationships with people we care about.
The challenge for all of us is that we are so busy working and nurturing our family, we can sometimes underinvest in our friendships. Our relationships with friends can also suffer when we are stressed out and in some cases pull back from friends, after all who wants to be a “downer” to our friends Continue reading “Victory Lap Question – When You Retire Where Do All Your Friends Go?”
One of the mistakes I made transitioning into my own Victory Lap was that I didn’t take any time off to regroup and refresh. I was suffering from “sudden retirement shock”. I wasn’t thinking clearly and I did what I always do when things are going off side, I roll up my sleeves and worked harder. I decided to go into full new business mode, I spent the better part of three years in a cave writing a book and trying to figure things out. Sure things worked out well in the end but it took a lot of time, researching, learning what I needed to know and now looking back I realize that it really didn’t have to be as hard as it was.
I also have a bad habit of always going it alone, something I developed while working at the Corp., a John Wayne thing. I believed that asking for help was a weakness and it made me look vulnerable. I always took the hard way and would try and figure it all out by myself. That kind of thinking resulted in me not creating and benefitting from mentors. This was a major mistake I made in my career. Life could have been so much easier if only I had been more open minded and willing to ask for help and advice. Continue reading “Hard Way vs. Smart Way”
Joe retired from his engineering career to become a stay at home dad/blogger at the age of 38. His reasons for leaving the corporate world were similar to mine, job stress was negatively affecting his health, but he found a way to escape from the corp. 20 years earlier than I did. I would have launched my own Victory Lap a lot sooner if his blog was around when I joined the working world.
Working for a corp. may have been easier if we did not accept the traditional view of a career, which is work for the same company until you retire, get your pension and wait for your final sunset. Both Joe and I feel that we’d rather not work for someone else, but rather chart our own course. Working for yourself is often a harder path to take but the rewards are much more satisfying. Continue reading “Victory lap Lifestyle Profile #2”
Today’s article is the first in a series written by Simon Chan who started his own VLR earlier this year after working for 20 years in the financial services industry. He has a broad base of experience with the subjects of pre-retirement and financial independence having worked in multiple businesses such as banking, wealth management, insurance and group retirement benefits. Most recently Simon was the head of business strategy for the Canadian Retail Business for a global insurer. In his role, he became interested in how technology, globalization and the rapidly changing environment is impacting the lives of millennials. In short Simon knows his stuff, is a great guy and wants to help.
I believe it’s important that we understand the new challenges that will be faced by our kids and grandkids in the years ahead. It won’t be easy but we can succeed if we all work together. -Mike Continue reading “Learn to Play The Long Game”
We are all social animals we crave interaction and generally don’t like being alone. We crave that feeling of togetherness being part of something bigger, the added comfort and safety that comes with being part of a group or a herd. The herd protects individuals from being singled out, and in the animal kingdom provides safety from being killed by a predator.
Many people have developed a “herd” mentality in life deriving comfort by going with the flow and if everyone else is going in one direction they must know something that we don’t. It is easier not to complicate things by forging our own path based on what we learn or believe. What happens if we are wrong and the herd is right?
When it comes to retirement the “herd” has been doing this retirement thing for a long time. So they must be right, right?