Why People Like Me Can’t Retire


Last Thursday I made a presentation on Victory Lap Retirement, followed by a Q & A session at the Toronto Public Library – York Woods branch. I love doing these presentations as it gives me an opportunity to present to my fellow boomers and find out what is going on out there in the real world.

After having talked to numerous boomers I’m convinced more than ever that the majority of us boomers really don’t want to retire, we just need a change, and some help figuring out what to do with the rest of our lives.

In this article I would like to share my thoughts on why some people feel the need for a significant change late in their careers and why traditional retirement is not the answer. I know these feelings because it happened to me.  Continue reading “Why People Like Me Can’t Retire”

In Pursuit Of Boomer Happiness

I was at my local Indigo bookstore this past weekend and look at who happened to stop by.

I’m really starting to believe in this karma thing as more and more chance encounters like this are happening to me since writing the book.

Through this chance meeting I had the chance to talk to Heather about Victory Lap Retirement and my concern that we had miscategorized the book by putting it into the personal finance/retirement section.  Heather was kind enough to share her thoughts and now I’m convinced that our book should be in the self improvement section.

Victory Lap Retirement is really not a book about retirement, in fact we make a strong case about the benefits of not retiring in the traditional sense.  It really is a book about lifestyle design with the goal of helping people create their own low stress healthy fulfilling lifestyle, one based on their own unique needs and wants. We know that through proper planning and intentional living, we can substantially improve the quality of our remaining years which is not a bad way to go out when you think about it.

Stress is the main risk in our eyes and prolonged exposure to stress can really mess a person up and in some cases actually kill them. I don’t know if it’s just me but I’m seeing more evidence of this each and every day, examples seems to be everywhere. Is it just me or are you seeing it as well?

We discussed the role of stress in a recent blog post called “The Big Dip”.

We have amended the original chart to now include a line representing a person’s level of happiness while travelling through the big dip. What stands out is that there is a strong negative correlation between stress and a person’s happiness. In simple terms, if your stress level is high chances are your happiness level will be low.  What is also interesting is that stress levels do not reduce as expected as a person ages.

This flies in the face of past research that talked about a happiness “U” curve where a person experienced increasing happiness until around age 30, with happiness dipping into their 30s and 40s and then climbing back up after reaching their fifties.

This theory used to work back when life was more predictable. When you could work for one company for most of your working life (like I did). When some of us had benefit of a defined pension plan. When your kids could get a good job and finally leave home. When you had a reasonable chance to save for a good retirement and when life expectancy rates were lower. But the world has changed and the U-curve theory no longer works and has been replaced by the Big Dip. This is the reason why you see so many books dealing with the subject of happiness at the front of your local bookstore. Think I’m kidding? Go have a look for yourself.

Today even as we age new stressors are around all the time. The top three stressors facing retirees are concerns over their health, the possibility of running out of money in retirement, and a lack of purpose or as we like to refer to it as ‘having a good reason to get out of bed in the morning.”

The good news is that we have found ways to successfully reduce stress levels and even more good news is that happiness will fill the vacuum stress leaves behind. You can’t chase happiness, happiness will find you but you need to make room for it.

So in summary the book is not a personal finance/retirement book at all. It is a self improvement book showing people how they can reduce the stress in their lives with the goal of creating a happy, healthy fulfilling lifestyle for themselves. Jonathan and I serve as the role models. We have made the transition and if we can do it there is no reason why others can’t do it as well.

Now I just need to figure out how to get the book into the self-improvement section at the bookstore.

 

Mike

No One Told Me It Would Be Like This

There is something very wrong with the work world today. It is far too common to find employees who are tired, over-worked, stressed out, and living in fear of an uncertain future. As a result, people are eating too much, watching too much television, and complaining too much, often self-medicating with drugs and/or alcohol or taking prescription medication to cope with their stress. How can it be that in North America, with two of the most prosperous societies in the world,  people are taking more medications for anxiety, depression, and sleep disorders than ever before?

Blame it on the big dip. Continue reading “No One Told Me It Would Be Like This”

Things I Learned Hanging Out With Young People

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Me and friends at CPFC16 – Kanwal, Me, Lesley-Anne and Judith (L to R)

I spent the past weekend at the Canadian Personal Finance Conference (CPFC) here in Toronto and had a blast. CPFC is a two-day conference aimed at personal finance bloggers, writers and anyone with a passion for learning more about finance. Some of the speakers included Rob Carrick (The Globe and Mail), Romana King (MoneySense magazine) and Michael Katchen CEO of Wealthsimple.

Jonathan and I spent the weekend connecting with people and handing out copies of our new book, Victory Lap Retirement.  We made many new friends and we will be working with many of them in the days ahead.

At some point, I noticed that most of the attendees were much younger than we were (For the record, Jonathan is older than me. Not by much, but enough) and this made me think that no matter the age difference, all of us at the conference  were still learning and growing. Who says you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? Bottom line, you are never too old to learn and learning new things will keep you thinking young. Continue reading “Things I Learned Hanging Out With Young People”

Breaking Boundaries

What are you going to do when it's your turn?
What are you going to do when it’s your turn?

Last week I appeared on BNN as a guest to talk about Victory Lap Retirement. You can see the interview here.

BNN was doing a piece on “Why Canadians Are Putting off Retirement – and The Challenges They Face” and it looks like our book Victory Lap Retirement struck quite a nerve. You can see a review of the book here and here.
Continue reading “Breaking Boundaries”

Financial Independence and Zen Awakening

 

 

 

I was recently asked to review a new book “Zen and the Art of Wealth” by Warren Mackenzie, which is a story of two friends who chat while one helps the other build his drystone wall. It’s a good book and reminded me of some important life lessons that I had forgotten over the years. The book also triggered some memories about how I was first exposed to the world of Zen. Continue reading “Financial Independence and Zen Awakening”

Books That Changed My Life

Books That Changed My LifeI have always been a firmer believer that most of the answers that we are looking for have already been written about. The trick is finding out where that information is hidden and one of the purposes of this site is to share helpful information sources with each other so that we can all benefit. I’m also a big believer in the power of role models, people who have proven successful at what I want to do. It’s much easier to see how another person accomplished some goal and then just copy what they did. Odds are if you do that you will be successful as well.

Continue reading “Books That Changed My Life”